Joanna Gaines did it, Lucille Ball, Julia Roberts and countless other women before me have done it. They brought their children to office with them every day. I mean just stick a pack-n-play right next to you and hustle kinda deal. I know a lot of women might read that and think, “Wow, how lucky is she!?” But trust me it isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. Now I know a lot of you are going to tell me to be quite and just be grateful that I get the opportunity. But you only see if from the outside, and well like most people we all think everything is perfect on the other side of the street.
Well, I’m going to be real with you, no ones perfect and just because I bring my children to work with me doesn’t mean I have to spend every single day feeling grateful. Of course I’m happy with my life and where we are at the moment but if we didn’t have things to work on well then life would just be boring. So be honest some days everything just sucks, it’s not always some beautiful bonding experience between baby and mother that I’ll show on my Instagram feed. I have to shh them all the time, especially when they are trying to ask me questions in the middle of a call. I have to ignore them when they say they want to go outside and play because we can’t go outside we can’t even leave the one room.
They don’t actually get to do anything of value, in fact they get the worst part of me. There are days where I’m so frustrated I just want to throw my computer against a wall. It is a constant battle between my career and motherhood. And while that is all true of course I’m grateful to be able to witness their first steps, hear their first words and see their smiling faces. But I can’t help but wonder what do they get? Somedays I answer with nothing, nothing but a stressed out mush of woman who won’t play with them.
Okay, okay I know a lot of the above was a little pity party thrown by me for exclusively me, myself and I. But it needed to be said, I guess what I’m trying to spit out is, we as moms are all struggling. Whether you’re a working mom or a SAHM or a new mom just learning the ropes, it isn’t easy. But it isn’t supposed to be. Recently I received a private message from a fellow mama asking me what my secret is and how do I make it looks so easy. I cried, I honestly cried when I read it, I don’t want to be that person for my readers. I don’t want to be another mama faking it for products and endorsements. For the past two years I’ve put myself out there to show that its okay to not be perfect and it seems like I’m not doing such a great job of that.
So I’m going to make a promise to all of you that I’ll try to keep up with my most authentic self. But only if you make a promise that next time you see a mom on Instagram, or in person and everything looks perfect and her kids are well behaved just remember this. Either, A.) She just got done screaming at them, B.)They are having a good day (you’ve had those we all have let her be) or C.) She’s taken 4 years of photography and has like 250 photos from that one moment, and only 1 of those 250 photos was an actual winner. Point is ladies, we need to stop being so hard on ourselves, stop with the comparisons and the competition and let each other live. Our kids don’t actually care how much money we make or that you’ve told them to be quite while you’re on a conference call. Most likely they are just going to keep talking anyway. Just remember you’re doing a great job and to them those moments where you feel like your hair is about to fall out are some of the most magical moments to them.