What the third trimester ALREADY?! It feels like yesterday I found out we were expecting our second. I was sitting on the couch in our living room only lit by the flickering of holiday lights in sheer shock over a positive pregnancy test. With so […]
Month: May 2016
The other day while rummaging through some of my old clothing I stumbled upon a box of baby clothes. This box was different though, it was older and definitely not Gunnar’s. It was a box of my clothes, clothes I had carried with me from my youth. Most of the items in the box were from different trips we had taken. I’ve always been big on grabbing a tee here and their when I traveled and I’ve always had to do it. It started when my parents would travel and always bring me something home. So when I started to travel with them I felt the need to keep up the tradition.
I’m so grateful to have found theses pieces to pass down to my boys. Now my style as a child wasn’t very girl, especially when it came to picking out tees. I didn’t go for the pinks and purples, I was always a green and blue kinda girl. Which seems to be working out well now that I’ve become the mother of boys! I love hand me downs they always tell a story. I can’t wait till my boys are old enough and able to wear a few of my things. Hand me downs are great for multiple reasons, to some the idea of reusing clothes from a previous child is considered a “no-no” but I don’t agree with that. There are so many benefits to hand me downs.
Recycling clothes: Don’t get me wrong this fashion mama loves to be on trend and stick with the times but personally, I think it’s wasteful to get rid of clothing for new styles every time you have a new baby. When it comes to buying baby clothes I love to take my time and slowly purchase. I will take the full 9 months to make certain purchases. We always knew we wanted more, even though Gunnar was a happy accident once he was on his way we just knew we wanted more. So, I tried to be smart with my purchases. Try to stick to the neutral tones and colors, limit your special pieces because those you will definitely want to switch up every time you have a new baby on the way. Of course we all love to buy something new for babies may they be our first or our 4th. But really for an infant you are the world not that adorable outfit they are sporting for about 10 minutes or until they destroy it.
Budgeting: Hand me downs are a great way to lower expenses you’ll start to have once that new baby arrives. If you’re looking to budget this way but are only on your first child see if any friends or family are ready to get rid of a thing or two. Most of the time you will find someone out there is willing and ready to give up the items you’re looking for. That’s what we did when getting ready for Gunnar. Fresh on our own struggling to make everything work we had amazing friends with a few boys above the age of 5 at that point who obviously had no use for baby clothes anymore and let me tell you it really saved us.
Memories: I’m so excited for when Bodhi arrives for, of course, multiple reasons but I can’t wait to get to use the clothing we purchased for Gunnar’s again. There’s something about putting your second child in something your first wore. It brings back all those memories I’ve stored away of when he was an infant and I hadn’t a clue what I was doing or if I was even doing it right. As a second time mama I know that will really be a joy to remember where we were and see how far we’ve come.
This morning Gunnar wanted nothing to do with any form of rules or decisions made by mommy. He just wasn’t in the mood. From bath time to breakfast everything I said and did was wrong. We’ve had a rough week concerning this little one. Yesterday when I went to grab him from school I was met but an extremely tired and not so happy teacher. “Gunnar received 7 incident reports today.”, Of course my first reaction was to apologize and insure her that Sam and I would handle it together tonight. Which we did of course, explaining to him that he can’t be so unruly in school, and trying to help him understand the importance of listening to your teacher. Of course our good little boy said, “Okay Mommy, okay Daddy, I sorry.” Of course we knew we had been had by a toddler who only said things like this when he knew he was in trouble. (for only being on this earth for two years this kid sure has his ques down.) But we let it go knowing that eventually we would get the idea to soak in.
So back to this morning, finally as I reached the end of my rope with all his no’s and not gonna do it, my love decided to dress himself. As I checked him out and looked from head to toe I couldn’t help but feel pride in his chosen attire. Winter boots, swim shorts, a button-down shirt (that wasn’t exactly buttoned and a winter hat. I mean this kid has such an amazing amount of confidence, it’s so beautiful to witness. Honestly some may say, “He is two he has no idea what he is doing.” But think about it for a minute, would any of us go out in such an outfit. Or would we all be too scared of what others will think. I think we all know the answer to that one and that’s okay because that’s what society has taught us to be true.
But maybe it isn’t so right, maybe taming our children to fall in line is wrong. Well, today I realized something about myself, I don’t want to make followers, I’m making leaders. His teachers, peers and future girlfriends may not be a fan of my methods but I’m going to stick with my gut and hopefully raise a respectful young man who doesn’t just play follow the leader for the rest of his life. I want him to be a mover and a shaker, to care for the less fortunate to always be questioning things and living life-like the little wild man he is and on his terms. Of course I want him to respect authority and play by the rules but I don’t want him to just go by all of these things blindly or because he’s been told.
So if he wants to wear a bathing suit to school, okay. On some days he may listens to his teacher and the other he doesn’t, okay well we all have our days don’t we?! I know it won’t be easy and I’m sure Sam and I will end up in the school office more than a handful of times, heck we may even want to pull our own hair out over some of his shenanigans. But in the end it will all be worth it. Because I’d rather him be the wild child he is, then ever dull his sparkle or cage his spirit. So here’s to my wild child and all the explanations I’m going to have to give his principles and teachers in the future! I’m so sorry in advanced but we won’t tame him.
It’s Monday and after all the sugar and Mother’s Day festivities I definitely did NOT want to get ready for work this morning. I don’t know if it was the over load of sweets from my sweet or just the fact the Bodhi is a night owl kicker but I did not wake up on the right side of the cupcake this lovely spring morn! As I laid there I was feeling grateful that Gunnie didn’t decide to wake up early and grace me with his presence, I could just lay there staring at the ceiling and prep myself for getting into the shower. As I get further along in this pregnancy it also becomes harder to get up and going. I’m not used to the added weight and its been getting to me lately.
So, let’s just say I had a lot I could complain about. Well, as I thought about that I realized I needed to stop. There were so many things to be grateful for. I have my health, a job, my happy family (most of the time) I needed to stop being so grumpy and get real with myself for a minute. I was killing my own vibes.
I decided to make a change, after all I don’t want to be one of those Monday morning grumps. You know what I’m talking about we’ve all been there at some point in our lives. They won’t smile at you as you grab your morning cup of coffee at Starbucks or they lack any form of human emotion as you walk by them through the halls at work. Sometimes it’s unavoidable and bad moods can happen for multiple reasons but today I didn’t have an ounce of justification for such an attitude. So it was time to get over all that was weighting me down and just be happy. Start the day fresh and remember that every day is another chance to turn it around. So if you too are feeling down for over indulging yesterday or just because well, ughh it’s Monday, don’t sweat it it’s going to be okay and you’re going to get through it. It’s a gorgeous Monday morning and after a week of rain in the Northeast I think that’s something to celebrate!